Baby Bed

Question: Please give me tips on how to get my 9 month old baby to sleep in her baby bed..?

(Posted by: MommyinMay on 2010-02-18 15:36:15)

My baby has been sleeping in bed with me and my husband, but she is now actively crawling, so I need to get her to sleep in her baby bed. Her baby bed is in our room, I know she is going to cry a lot.....I am wondering how to handle it, so i don& #039;t give in and bring her back to bed.. Is it safe to let her cry for a couple hours? I Rarely let her cry at all..i usually pick her up right away, so its going to be hard!! PLEASE Help

Posted by: K on 2010-02-18, 15:40:55

"Is it safe to let her cry for a couple hours? " No, not unless you 're actively trying for SIDS. You can put your mattress on the floor and sleep safely with her that way. "I am wondering how to handle it, so i don 't give in " Oh man. Look, she 'll be a baby for this one, super-short time. A little kid also for a startlingly short time. Then you have the rest of your lives to sleep separately... edit: when you are a lonely old lady, do you want to have the memories the loving, sensitive "mamajess " has? Or do you want to remember holding your babies close for the brief time life permits that to happen?

Posted by: Tacey on 2010-02-18, 15:42:42

They say that 10 minutes is generally a pretty safe length of time to let a baby scream it out. Pretty safe for you too, it sounds like you are going to have a harder time than her. Try putting her in there and if she cries, let her go for 10 minutes. After ten minutes, come back, don 't say a word, give her her dummy or whatever comforts her, leave the room again. Ten minutes is not such a long time, be strong! And eventually she will sleep!

Posted by: amanda on 2010-02-18, 15:43:00

Dont let her cry for more than 10 minutes. If you know shes tired, fed, warm with comfy clothes and that the room is dark with a little bit of light so shes not too scared, then its safe for you to lay her down with a comfort item say good night and leave the room. Some people I know rock their babies to sleep, then lay them down, if they wake up and cry they just let them figure it out. My youngest son is 16 months, we just started the cry it out routine and he only cried for 10 minutes the most the first night, the second night he cried for like 3 minutes and now he just lays there puts his blanket over his head and falls asleep. Its a learned behaviour to fall asleep on their own, please though attend to your child through the night, as she is still young and going to experience more teething and seperation anxiety. Cheers!

Posted by: Michelle on 2010-02-18, 15:45:03

I don 't have a great answer for you...I 'm in the same boat. My 9 month old sleeps with us. He has slept in his bed (in a different room) but due to traveling/ a cold/ an ear infection/ visitors etc. He has been with us for the past few months. We have tried to sleep train him before and he is very very stubborn. He would cry for at least an hour, sometimes more (Ferber method) I can 't really say it worked, but I am considering trying again now. I do want him to go in his own bed, I know it will get harder and harder. I think it 's safe to let them cry, but it does suck....bad. I hope your daughter is one of the babies who only last about 20 min. The first night is the hardest.

Posted by: mamajess on 2010-02-18, 15:54:39

AAhhh you should have done this months ago!! and you have to know there is a diffrence between tough love and abuse! She needs to cry without you grabbing her up that isnt good for her to do at all!! Now, baby 's start remembering things at around 4 months and by now she know exactly how she should be sleeping and that in her mind is WITH YOU. but to answer your question, No a couple hrs is way too long to cry!! The thing to do is get them very sleepy and then lay them down and leave the room. Leave something with them that they see a lot like a stuffed animal or such. She will cry but do not go back in there unless she is still crying after 12 mins exactly or if the crying becomes hysterical. 12 is a magic # so don 't fudge it. When u go back in there (cause it takes more than a few times to get it done) pick up the child and calm them down and let them become sleepy again at that point lay her back down and repeat again. OVER AND OVER AND OVER till she finally gives up and realizes your not changing the rules or your mind. Do not think that the next night will be any easier cause it happened the night before. She has learned a pattern and it takes 25-30 days to learn a new habit. She if at all possible needs to be in sep room!! The longer this goes on the way it has been the bigger of a mess your building for yourself! I did my homework I didn 't want to have happen what happened to my parents with me! I have gone to children sleep classes and such and really read the best ways. It took a whole year for my child to understand that him going to sleep was his job not mine! You have to build your child a soothing method for falling asleep something they can do for themselves to relax and fall asleep and right now your child 's soothing sleep method is her parents and that is not good. Good luck! Search childs sleep soothing methods to learn more.